WOMEN FAKE ORGASMS MORE THAN MEN.DO YOU AGREE??????

70% of women and a THIRD of men have faked an orgasm to avoid hurting their partner's feelings

• Pressure to enjoy sex was one of the main reasons
• Others became bored after an orgasm seemed unlikely  

Seven out of ten women and nearly a third of men have faked an orgasm, according to new research.

The study, carried out by the University of Kansas, found that 68 per cent of women and even 28 per cent of men have pretended to climax with a partner.

Both sexes gave the same reasons for faking it - a partner's orgasm was imminent so they felt under pressure to climax.

Other commonly cited reasons were that they wanted to end  - without hurting a partner's feelings - or they were bored after an orgasm seemed unlikely.

Aim to please: Many are faking orgasms to keep their partners happy

REASONS WHY MARRIAGES FAIL.

Top 10 Reasons Marriages Fail

1. Financial Problems
For the most part, it is the lack of open communication about money problems that jeopardizes a marriage more than the financial problems alone. Everyone has financial issues concerning bills, debts, spending and budgets. How a couple deals with those issues can make or break a relationship.

2. Communications Problems
If a couple has communication problems prior to marriage, those problems are likely to get worse after tying the knot. It is important that both partners are able to discuss every aspect of married life openly and on a regular basis. A marriage without two-way communication will not last long.

3. Family Problems
Family relationships with children, parents, in-laws, siblings and step-children are all sources of marital problems. Raising children increases stress in the home and can cause minor differences of opinion to become major rifts in a relationship. Discretion is the better part of valor when it comes to family and marriage.

4. Sex Problems
Sex is an important part of marriage and the source of many marriage problems. Every marriage requires the act of consummation by sexual intercourse. Failure to consummate a marriage or problems with sexual frequency, quality, and infidelity are all common reasons for marriage failure and divorce.

5. Friend Problems
Close personal friends of either spouse do not always make the transition to friends of the marriage. Some relationships with friends can be toxic to the marriage if they insert themselves between spouses. A good friend will enhance a married couple’s relationship. People who try to break a marriage apart are not quality friends.

HOW TO SPOT A GOOD GIRL/WOMAN-- 15 THINGS TO LOOK FOR.

They Are Still  Good women Out There ohhh.

Many of my readers lately are men who have at some point or other in their lives been deceived and dazed by a woman's looks. Many of them have wasted countless hours and spent small fortunes chasing after women who lied to them and basically treated them like dirt. Some regret the lost opportunity to the marry a woman who was not exactly physically attractive but was a good woman.

There is really no "standard" litmus test for telling right away that a woman is "a good woman" or one of those "other" ones.

Here are just a few things to look for when you meet or date a girl/woman:

1. She has an open and welcoming smile that goes beyond the surface deep inside her eyes 

 the window to her soul. Her eyes and her whole demeanor kind of "lights up" when you walk into the room or towards her.

2. She lets you be you.

 She does not want to change you - clean you up, re-make you or rename you etc. - so she can love you but accepts you just the way you are.

3. She genuinely enjoys your company 

 isn't afraid to ask for it or tell you that she enjoys being around you. Being around her feels like being around your best friend because you can truly be just yourself -- no feeling like you're always walking on egg-shells or trying too hard to please (and always coming short). The experience of being around her is "satisfying" in its own.

4. She goes out of her way to do things she thinks will make you happy. 

She's the woman who'll call you just to say "hi" or "I was thinking of you" however busy/tired she is.

5. She is independent and secure within herself.

 She does not need constant attention and does not put pressure on you to feed her self-esteem, anxiety or worries about the future.

6. She's there for you when it's up and when it's down. 

 She's happy out in an expensive restaurant just as she's happy sitting next to you on the couch, doing nothing.

GRATITUDE ( "THANK YOU" ONE OF THE SWEETEST WORDS)

Appreciation  Goes A long Way....


Gratitude or thankfulness is, in fact, a grand concept to most of us; so much more, because being grateful or thankful seem a tall order these days. What is there to be grateful about in our wretched, cruel world, when people kill each other at the slightest fault, not only thru unthinkable acts, but also thru sharp, wounding words? What is there to be thankful for, when kids die of toil or hunger instead of skipping their way to school, babies get sold like pancakes for a living when they ought to be nurtured and cared for, men and women lead lives of indecency and promiscuity, and the sick, old, and dying become eyesores to society? Where is the beautiful, the good, and the pure that we ought to be grateful about? In this day and age, all these things seem to have been thrown outside the proverbial window.

Somehow, though, despite all the crap that the world has been churning out in recent times, I still choose to cultivate my personal culture of having a grateful or thankful spirit. Gratitude or thankfulness leads one to move above and beyond limitations toward the real beauty of things. As Melody Beattie so aptly put it, “Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”  I choose to cultivate gratitude and thankfulness within myself, because by doing so, I invite acceptance, optimism and positivity, and most importantly, I invite hope to reside within me.

GUYS OPINION ON HAVING SEX WITH A VIRGIN

How Guys Feel About Sex With Virgins

This week, by a readers request, we posed this question: "What are your thoughts about having sex with virgins? Would you have sex with a virgin at your current age, assuming you were single? If yes, how and when would you like to be told that someone you were dating was a virgin? And how have your sexual encounters with virgins (when you weren't one yourself) differed — if at all — from sex with more experienced partners?" Below, guys answer.

 *Guy Number 1

 Whatever she wants

I've only ever lost my virginity, never taken it from someone. However, if I was dating a virgin, I'm not sure it would be all that big a deal. I'd probably treat it like everything else when it comes to sex: whatever she wants, whenever she's comfortable, and whenever she's ready. However, if she was one of those people "waiting for the right person" and still about my age, I'm terrified I'd assume she's some kind of crazy fundamentalist and break up with her — which doesn't seem fair. Some people obviously need to wait, but I do think sex is an essential part of the relationship and declaring it has to be put off (particularly between two monogamous adults) is more detrimental than helpful.

*Guy Number 2

The campsite rule

I don't think virginity is magical! I mean — I guess it is true that I wouldn't have casual sex with a virgin, but then, I don't think I'd really have casual sex, anyhow. I don't ascribe to some notion of purity or innocence coming along with virginity, but you do have to take into account emotions and history — if you have sex with a virgin, you're going to be part of their person's life story. Not necessarily, but it is likely. I know Dan Savage is controversial, but his "campsite" rule comes into play, I think — don't leave a mess behind, try to make the person better than when you first met. That being said, I guess I'd want to be told, you know, around the time that it became germane to the discussion — when the possibility of hooking up started to develop.

22 SECRETS TO DISCOVERING YOUR DREAMS AND LIVING IT.(Dedicated to my reader Cyril de West)

If You Can Think It..You Can Definitely Do It..

One of the most important rules of happiness in life is to do what you love. But discovering that dream job and what you are meant to do in life isn't always so easy.

Take a look at the happiest, most successful people on this planet: they are all doing something they love, creating something they believe in, living a life of purpose and passion. Do that, and it doesn't matter how much money you make.

But what do you do if you don't know what you want to do? If you don't know what your dream is? This is a common problem, and many people wander through much of their life without discovering their passion, and go from job to job, unfulfilled and miserable.

If that's you, don't give up. What follows is a list of suggestions that will help you discover your dream, and start on the road to living that dream. They're things that have worked for me and many others I've studied, talked to, interviewed and admired.

While you don't need to do every step below, they are all ways for your to spend time thinking about your passion in life, your dreams, and how to accomplish them. If you spend time thinking about your dreams, you are taking the first step towards making them a reality.

The first step is to give this stuff some thought.

1. What are your hobbies? This doesn't just mean stamp collecting -- it means anything you do with your spare time. That could be collecting comic books, reading about history, programming Linux utilities, writing on your blog, writing poetry, cooking, whatever. As it's clear that this is how you like to spend your time, and that you're willing to do these things without pay, it's very possible that these are your passions. Give each of your hobbies some thought, and think about whether they're things you love to do, and that you'd love to do for a living.

6 TYPES OF TOXIC FRIENDS AND HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM

Do You Have These Kinds Of Friends?????You Now Have A Solution….

There is no crystal ball to predict that a particular friend will turn out to be a reliable, positive relationship in your life or, by contrast, that a negative association will cause you emotional distress, or worse. Since destructive or negative friends are not always that easy to spot, being forewarned is forearmed, as the saying goes. Some friends may be betrayers from the start; others may turn into betrayers because of what's going on in their lives or because of changes in their personality. Sometimes you need to consider what your friend is really like within the contexts of all the behaviors. I can't emphasize enough that you need to consider the root cause.

Here below are six traits to consider that could pose a problem in friendship. (You may even recognize yourself in one or more of these types.)

1. The Promise Breaker
2. The Double-crosser
3. The Self-absorbed
4. The Discloser
5. The Competitor
6. The Fault-finder

1. The Promise Breaker
This friend constantly disappoints you or breaks promises, most likely because she herself was constantly disappointed during her formative years. Your friend is unable to stop herself from repeating that pattern. It is an annoying but comfortable pattern for your friend, and without psychological help, it may be hard for her or him to alter this pattern. You could abandon the friend and the friendship, or you could find a way to detach yourself by lowering your expectations for this friendship. If she promises to do something for you, even to meet you for a cup of coffee, you can say, "Sure," but protect yourself by knowing, in the back of your mind, that this friend "nine times out of 10" is going to cancel on you.

Although your friend may always have been this way, she may have also recently acquired this trait because of something she is going through right now. If a friend who has always been there for you, through thick and thin, has only recently become less reliable, you might want to cut her some slack. You have to decide if this is a lifelong trait that will be hard or impossible to change, a temporary condition that will be short-lived, or something, if it does continue indefinitely, that you are willing to accept and handle.

(FOR THE GALS…)MEETING WITH YOUR EX AFTER A RECENT BREAK-UP

So,You're Going to See Your Ex...

Post break-up, you're bound to get it: The dreaded invite to the party/picnic/wedding where you know your ex will be. But instead of viewing it like the sequel to Doomsday, start prepping for it like a big red carpet event —one where he's not the focus of your entire evening, just the inspiration for you not wearing a pair of unwashed jeans out of the house (again).

Splurge on a New Dress

That fab feeling when you're wearing something new that you know looks good will be well worth it for an occasion like this: It's always best to feel your best when dealing with your ex, no matter how good (or, well, not so good) the break-up was.

Bring a Wing man

 No need to dig through your contacts for a kind-of-sort-of suitable date. The ideal dude to take to a situation like this would be a guy-pal who is well-informed of the situation and knows your feelings on your ex (major bonus points if he's cute). Having an awkward first (or second) date when your mind is on your last BF isn't ideal. Don't have a guy friend who fills this role? A wing-woman can do the trick too!

Get Your Hair Done    ...And

your nails done too. Make sure you look and feel like a slightly better version of your normal self. A blow-out can leave any girl feeling like a million bucks and won't make it look like you tried too hard. Don't show up with a manicure from three weeks ago, especially if you have a habit of chomping on your nails when you get nervous. And if he never saw you wear make-up before, don't show up sporting false lashes and siren red lipstick. You don't want to look like you tried too hard. That's one for the night you run into him and another for when your date with the guy who is way, way better than he was in the first place.

I AM SO JEALOUS OF MY 2 BEST FRIENDS....

My Two Best Friends Are Beautiful, And I’m So Jealous It Could Ruin Our Friendship

Every girl thinks her friends are beautiful. But trust me, mine, Alice and Charlotte (not real names) , really are. They are the type of girls who cause boys’ mouths to hang slack and drool.

I once walked into a club with Alice and a young gentleman turned to his friend, pointed at her and repeated ‘she’s just so fucking hot she’s just so fucking hot she’s just so fucking hot’ losing all sentence-making skills until I pointedly barged past him to the bar.

I’m constantly being sidled up to, and asked furtively, ‘sooo…is your friend single?’ to which sometimes I snap and lie furiously ‘she’s GAY and she’s MINE’ and then sadly chew the straw in my vodka coke.

They are both stunningly photogenic, size eights, beautiful skin, well dressed, big-eyed goddesses and perhaps most infuriatingly they are both impossibly cool and great people as well. Grrr.
Charlotte came to visit me at home one Christmas and she was introduced to my childhood friend and her new boyfriend. The boyfriend, three minutes after meeting her instantly admitted his sudden crush and when I heard I felt totally desolate.
It was his first time meeting us both, I was so excited and tried really hard to be super charming, and all he could feedback to my friend was how great Charlotte’s ass was.

All my male friends (no exaggeration…all, even the gay ones) have admitted to lusting after one or both of them and sometimes drop in a casual question asking exactly what I’ve managed to see in a changing room. Even my female friends wax lyrical about how nice Alice’s hair is or how sexy Charlotte’s shoulders look today.

I FUCKED MY STEP DADDY

I FUCKED WITH MY STEP DADDY AND I LOVED IT AND I CHERISH IT FOREVER. (DON'T JUDGE ME IT'S MY LIFE)......

I had wanted my Step Dad for years. I teased him and I played with him but he always resisted me. I had boyfriends but when they entered me I thought of him. I imagined it was him on top of me. He became my obsession, my target, my goal.

I tried showing him my body. I tried to touch him and get close. Nothing worked. The closest I came to making him want me was one time at the local swimming pool. We stood on the steps of the big slide. He was behind me and everyone was bunched up close. My nearly naked wet body was close to his. My back touched his front. I loved being so close to my Dad. As we waited, going up step by step, I moved slowly and made sure we had to share each step. His body pressed into me and I felt his penis rising. I was filled with butterflies. I moved my bum back towards it. It grew bigger. I wanted to grab it, to suck it, to take it inside me. Sadly we reached the top but I knew then he felt something for me. I wanted it to be lust. I went down the slide trying desperately to hold on and slow myself so he could catch up. Eventually he did and those moments with his arms around me and his hard dick touching my back were the best I felt that entire year. I never once thought about my mum or her feelings. I was young and horny and I wanted him. That's all I could think of in my teenage years. I felt alone and depressed because he didn't want me. Boys in school did and I gave myself to a few just to make myself feel wanted but it didn't work. I felt ugly and unloved. I couldn't understand why my Daddy didn't want me like I did him. Then a few months ago everything changed. My mum got a new job and with it a new life. She started coming home late and going out without my Dad. After years of being together they grew apart. Watching his heart breaking was sad for me. The man came into my life when I was only eight years old but I loved him like a Dad. Then as soon as my period came I loved him in a different way. The rows then started. He was drinking every night and she was out with her friends. The real blow came when she told him she was with someone else. I wanted to hug him, to kiss him, to love him but he was distraught. He moved out and into a dingy little flat in town. 

TRIBALISM IN CAMEROON

Cameroon: A Cancer-Of-Tribalism-Threatened Nation

Cameroon is often described as an “Island of peace” in a troubled Central African Sub-region, but her peace and stability are seriously threatened by the cancer of tribalism that has eaten deep into every fabric of the society.  The obsessive feeling of loyalty to one’s own tribe, party or group to the exclusion of others continues to fuel disdain, scorn, mutual suspicion and distrust among Cameroonians and is fast destroying the fragile strings that hold the nation together.

In Cameroon the cancer of tribalism is disseminated by generalised negative stereotypes about different tribes and ethnic groups handed down through generations with children warned not to marry outside their ethnic group or from a particular tribe.

Furthermore, the social media is widely used to propagate tribal animosities and ensure that a legacy of hate and suspicion is passed down to generations. The situation is even aggravated by some overzealous elites who conduct campaigns of division, intrigue and provocation against other tribes. Tribalism has been raised to the prominence of a national culture that pervades every discourse, controls the way people think and defines what they oppose or support.

Instead of casting aspersions against other tribes, Cameroonians should rather begin to fan the flames of national unity and love for we are children of One God and we belong to one family.

The mania for tribalism over collective national interests has made Cameroonians to see every government action from a tribal prism. For example, gubernatorial or ministerial appointments ignite sentiments of frustration because particular tribes are either forgotten or appointed to ministerial posts without portfolio. Moreover, when tribes people get trapped in the “Operation Sparrow Hawk” for economic and financial crimes, tribal jingoists try to give a political or tribal coloration to a purely criminal offense.

ONE NIGHT STANDS

 EXCITING OR RISKY????? ALMOST EVERYONE HAS A ONE NIGHT STAND STORY

I had a one-night stand with an attractive, dark-haired, exciting man. I was visiting my best friend who lives in Yaounde. I was feeling low and lacking self-confidence, but 'Jack' not real name, a friend of my friend's boyfriend, seemed to like me.

'Don't get attached to him,' my friend warned. 'He's not that kind of guy.' At the time, neither of us knew exactly what kind of guy he was.

On the Saturday night we all got drunk and I flirted with Jack. My friend kept giving me warning looks. At 5am we headed home. My friend and her boyfriend went to bed - and so did we.

Too drunk to do anything, we fell asleep. When we woke up we had hurried, unsatisfying sex which lasted two minutes. I got up and had breakfast, he left. I never saw him again.

Three years later my friend's relationship ended. She returned to Douala and came to my new flat. I was happy. I had a job, a car and a budgie - all was right in my world. Until she dropped the bombshell. 'I don't know how to tell you this,' she said, fidgeting and looking at the floor, 'but Jack has Aids.'

For a second I didn't know who she was talking about and then my stomach lurched. I doubled over with the shock. My hands started shaking uncontrollably. Jack, my friend had since discovered, was both an intravenous drug user and a high-class pimp at the time we slept together. 'Think,' she said. 'Did you use a condom?' 'No,' I cried. 'Of course we fucking didn't.'

In blind panic we drove to the local hospital. They told us to come back on Monday. In a mist of fear I battled through Saturday night and Sunday. My brother stayed with me while we went over and over whether I could be HIV positive.

FEMALE ORGASM

THE TRUTH ABOUT FEMALE ORGASM

Reaching climax is the highpoint of sexual intercourse. Men and women are built differently and this is evident in how they reach orgasm. Unlike men, the female’s sensitive parts are located internally, which makes reaching an orgasm a bit more difficult for women.

Men often concentrate their efforts on the vaginal area because they believe that women can achieve an orgasm by stimulating the clitoris. Although the female’s clitoris is considered to be their most sensitive part, spending some time on the other erogenous zones could help them achieve faster and stronger orgasms.

It may come as a surprise for men but women do not have an orgasm every time they have sex. This is either because men climax before their female partners or the male is unable to stimulate the female into orgasm.

Men should also understand that sex and stimulation for women does not deal only with the physical aspect but a lot more with their state of mind. This is why setting the mood and what you say or do before physical contact helps the female in reaching an orgasm.

The clitoris serves only one purpose and that is for sexual pleasure. So concentrating on this part of the female anatomy can make sex not only an enjoyable experience for a female but more importantly also a satisfying one.

Men should also consider spending more time in foreplay than just concentrating on penetrating the female vagina. Sometimes it takes a fair amount of time before a female is fully prepared for intercourse. Heating up your intimate encounter before actually doing it can help females achieve orgasm faster.

Studies have shown that men achieve orgasm after 10 to 15 minutes of sexual activity, but men who are already adequately stimulated are able to reach their climax even earlier. This would not be a problem except for the fact that women have a longer average time for reaching their orgasm. Research has placed this at around 20 minutes. This is probably the reason why women don’t achieve an orgasm every time they have sex so men should consider controlling their climax.

RAPE

A Survivor’s Story


IT’S every woman’s worst nightmare. Yet rape is an all too familiar occurrence, affecting females of all ages, nationalities and backgrounds across the world.

Last year saw a startling 54 sexual offenses reported in Douala. But a culture of silence on this most taboo topic means the real figure is likely to be far higher.

For those lucky enough to escape without a communicated disease, unwanted pregnancy or long-term physical injury, there is little chance of escaping the emotional trauma.

That can include panic attacks, post-traumatic stress, anger, shame, loss of trust and depression, to name a few.

Here, one survivor bravely speaks out about one fateful night that was to end in violation, humiliation and terror – and change her life forever.

Cynthia`s Story……

Cynthia was just 19 when she was attacked by a stranger after accepting a ride home from work one night, dragged into bushes and brutally raped.

And if she thought things couldn’t possibly get any worse, her ordeal was compounded by a dire lack of resources, sympathy and, ultimately, justice.“Rape is something no one ever talks about. It’s the biggest secret – but it’s something that happens alot.

“Since it happened to me, I have heard of many cases of women from all backgrounds, ages and race being raped, and young girls even becoming pregnant as a result.

“No matter how horrible my experience was, I feel that speaking out is more positive than all the women who stay home and never tell anyone they were attacked.”

For Cynthia, the lack of sympathy shown by the nurses supposed to care for her, the humiliating trial and the shocking not-guilty verdict – despite a wealth of forensic evidence – was even worse than the attack itself.

“I just hope that telling my story helps, in some way, to change things for the better.”

That story began in the early hours of June 18 2011.

HARLOTRY: HOW I (INITIALLY) FAILED AT BEING A SUGAR BABY

Sugar Baby No Na Easy Thing.....

For me, the worst part of prostitution was always setting up appointments with new clients. I had a few regulars, but by the time I decided to quit the economy was in a tailspin. Their business was no longer frequent enough to sustain my standard of living. It may have been the tableau reflected in the mirror ceiling that made me decide to quit, but it was the monotony of arranging appointments that made me stick to that decision. I didn’t repost my ad after I decided to quit whoring, but I went on a few calls with regulars anyway. After all, I had to eat.

Right about this time, it struck me that I had been very, very reckless with my money: I had enough to live on for about a month, but I should have had more. I had assumed I’d have the luxury of time during to decide which direction I wanted to go in but when I took a good look at my finances… I realized I had no such thing.

I considered looking for a straight job, but as I thought of all my friends who languished in cafes and behind cash registers it was obvious that I was destined for better things. Once again, I went to my friend Leslie  for advice. Leslie had recently embarked on what she hoped would be a flourishing career as a sugar baby, that grey area between actual dating and prostitution catered to notoriously by sites like Seeking Arrangement. The entire sugar daddy arrangement sounded wonderful to me; it provided the convenience of a regular client with (hopefully) greater financial rewards. So far, Leslie hadn’t had the best luck as a sugar baby, but I assumed that this had more to do with her reluctance to give so much as a single blow job, than any flaws in the actual system itself.

I found  seeking arrangement and sites like it to be quite intimidating. My fellow prospective sugar babies all seemed to be skinny, light skin girls. They were all exactly what I was not. I decided that since I’d already had such luck with prostitution sites, it wouldn’t hurt to post an ad on there. I wasn’t expecting much of a response, but I was pleasantly surprised when I received quite a few. With all the emails pouring in, I was pretty sure that at least one or two of them would be what I was looking for. I was well on my way to becoming a kept woman “of pleasure”.

EIGHT LIES MOTHERS SAY FOR THE LOVE OF THEIR CHILD.

EIGHT LIES OF A MOTHER

(Inspirational and heart touching story).

The story began when I was a child. I was born as a son of a poor family. Even for eating, we often got lack of food. Whenever it’s time for eating, mother often is gave me her portion of rice. While she was removing her rice into my bowl, she would say “Eat this rice, son. I’m not hungry”. That was Mother’s First Lie.

When I was getting to grow up, the persevering mother gave her spare time for selling vegetables she harvest from the bushes  in a market near our house, she hoped that from the vegetable she got, she could gave me a little bit nutritious food for my growth. After selling, she would cook the remaining vegetable with fresh fish, which raised my appetite. While I was eating the soup, mother would sit beside me and eat the rest of the vegetable I didn`t finish, and the rest of the meat which was still on the bone of the fish I ate. My heart was touched when I saw it. I then used my chopstick and gave the other fish to her. But she immediately refused it and said “Eat this fish, son. I don’t really like fish.” That was Mother’s Second Lie.

Then, when I was in Primary School, to fund my studies, my mother took a cleaning job at a rich man`s house and during her spare time  my mother went to a carpenter workshop to pick up unused wood which she will sell as fire wood. It gave her some money for covering our needs. As the rainy season came, I woke up from my sleep and looked at my mother who was still awoke, supported by a little candlelight and within her perseverance she continued the work of tying together the wood to sell.. I said, “Mother, go to sleep, it’s late, tomorrow morning you still have to go for work. “Mother smiled and said “Go to sleep, dear. I’m not tired.” That was Mother’s Third Lie.

THE SEX CANDLE

    

     How To Keep The Sex Candle Burning In A Relationship Or Marriage

Communication is the key to a healthy and active sex life in a dating relationship/marital relationship, so talk with one another more!

1. Share with one another your sexual desires.
2.  Talk with one another about your expectations concerning lovemaking. False or unmet expectations can hurt your marriage.
3. Sexual intimacy is a continuing process of discovery. True intimacy through communication is what makes sex great.
4. Sex in a long lasting relationship can deepen and become a richer experience. No matter how many times you have made love to each other, the wonder and awe of mutual attraction can still be there.
5. When life becomes busy, and schedules are hectic, plan for sexual encounters with one another. Make sex one of your main priorities.
6. Try to set the mood in advance.
7. If you want to have good sex at night, start the foreplay in the morning.
8. Let your spouse know you care and are thinking about him/her throughout the day by notes, e-mails, phone calls, hugs, etc.
9. Don't expect your spouse to be the only one in your marriage who is responsible for romance. You both need to take responsibility for having an intimate and successful marriage.
10. Hold hands more often.
11. Schedule date nights.

FITNESS

Healthy Life,Happy Life-(This is to u Uncle Val)

By the Motto Of my Blog you must have all guessed that living healthy is a priority to me.And as the saying goes,"Healthy Life,Happy Life". Below Are some Fitness tips to help you live Healthy and Happy by keeping Fit.

Healthy Ways Of Keeping Fit

There are a lot of ways to keep fit. The important thing is that you find an activity that you enjoy doing and that you stick with it. There is a variety of things you can do. You can run, walk, swim, bike, go hiking, do yoga, lots of different methods for keeping fit. Another enjoyable way is to go dancing. Dancing is a very good aerobic activity, requires physical liveliness and burns a lot of calories. The other thing that is significant is making sure that you follow a healthy diet. You want to make sure that you have enough energy to do these activities that you actually enjoy doing to keep your body fit. Therefore, following a healthy diet means ensuring that you eat when you are hungry, you stop eating when you are full, you include plenty of different types of fruits and vegetables, whole grains, things like brown rice, oatmeal millet, all those types of things are considered whole grains. You also want to include some type of lean protein whether that’s from legumes, beans such as pinto beans, garbanzos, or seafood or lean cuts of meat or poultry without the skin. Any of those are sources of lean proteins that are very beneficial for your body. And again, that particular method of eating will make sure that you have the energy that you need to actually perform these different types of activities you enjoy doing. So when you find the activity you like, try to do it several times a week at least 4 to 5 times a week will really help improve your level of fitness. More than that can actually cause you to lose weight if you are trying to actually lose weight. As you see there are several different ways of keeping feet. It can be any type of physical activity that you enjoy doing.

STRESS MANAGEMENT

 Managing Stress For A Better And Healthy Life.

 Wow this is a Challenge topic for me because I used to be “Mamie Stresssssssss” lol. But hey that was then. I was asked by my very good friend Mike to write on stress Management. Hey this is dedicated to you Buddy.

It may seem that there’s nothing you can do about stress. The bills won’t stop coming, there will never be more hours in the day and your career and family responsibilities will always be demanding. Damn f**k people keep stressing you etc. But you have more control than you might think. In fact, the simple realization that you’re in control of your life is the foundation of stress management. Managing stress is all about taking charge: of your thoughts, emotions, schedule, and the way you deal with problems.

Below Are Some Solutions To Enable You Manage Stress. This Helped Me A lot.

TRUE FRIENDSHIP

(Dedicated to my sweet Lil brother Njoke Jeannot who gave me the inspiration on this topic.)

As the saying goes, “No man is an island.”  We all need to connect with other people to fully give meaning to our lives. There are certain relationships that we go through as we grow up.  Our first relationships are with our parents. With good parenting, trust and love are developed within a person. This becomes evident as we go out into the world and relate to other people. We also develop relationships with our siblings and peers. Through our interactions and games, we learn to communicate and co-exist with others of the same age. But as we grow older, we develop closeness to certain people.  These are what we call our “friends.”

A Group of Friends

Having a clique or a group of friends is healthy because you get to grow and learn things together.  You also have a group to belong to and relate your experiences with.  Parents may not fully understand what you are going through, but your friends will always relate to you because they are going through the very same things. These are also the people who will fight for you when you are in trouble. They are the people who will tell you if you are doing something wrong and try to correct you even if it makes you mad. A good group of friends are the ones who make you a better person. These people should care about you and wish for you what is best for you. A group of friends who constantly get you into trouble are not real friends.

HOW TO BE IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP AND MAKE IT WORK!

Chances are, you were taught basic skills such as reading, writing, and how to ride a bike. Yet how many of you were taught how to be in a love relationship and make it work?

   It's quite amazing that in these sophisticated times people are not taught basic relationship skills. It's obviously needed because the divorce statistics are so high, not to mention all the single people out there looking for a mate. That is why I want to share some key factors with you.
       These factors are:
     
 1. Relationship is a path to growth and healing.
     2. The art of listening.
     3. The three A's - Acceptance, Acknowledgment, and Appreciation
     4. The importance of sustaining your emotional bank account.


 1) Relationship is a path to growth and healing.
 The first factor I'd like you to be aware of is that your relationship is a path to growth and healing. Did you know that unconsciously you attract someone to you who will embody both the positive and negative qualities of your parents or caretakers? This is because the path of a love relationship has an underlying purpose - which is the healing of childhood wounds. Just think of how many times a lover will trigger your core issues. For example, let's look at a couple who we will call Ekei and Kum. Suppose Ekei has childhood issues around abandonment. When she and her husband, Kum, get into an argument Kum has a tendency to get angry and walk out on her. This drives Ekei crazy. Why? It unconsciously brings up her fear of abandonment. And Kum walks out because arguing makes him feel frustrated which in turn makes him feel like a failure.

   Okay, that's interesting, you might think. But what does a person do about a situation like that? Well, that brings us to the next factor, which is the art of listening. You can train yourself to become aware of core issues by listening to what your emotions are trying to tell you. The following is an exercise;

2) The Art Of Listening
-  First pay attention to what you are sensing or feeling. Notice where in your body you are feeling the sensation and breathe into that area to release some of the tension there. Then describe the feeling and ask yourself these questions.

AFRICANS SHOULD COME BACK HOME

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All through the 80s, 90s and 2000s, Africans have been migrating to the western world at an alarming rate in quest for better opportunities and better standards of living. This migration post slavery took the best from Africa to Europe and the US, especially those whose parents could afford to come up with the payment. That trend is fast changing as the US and Europe’s economies are merely surviving and when growing are only seeing a maximum of 2% GDP per year, and Japan is not even growing. That said were then is the growth and how can we make this tangible. Most African countries are growing at double digits and will continue to grow like that for a while but are Africans profiting from this growth? We know very well that in order to sustain an economy, the main engine of growth is the accumulation of human capital – of knowledge – and the main source of differences in living standards among nations is differences in human capital. Physical capital plays an essential but decidedly subsidiary role. So where is the Human capital from Africa, that countries like Cameroon, Angola, Nigeria and every country in Africa will be having this huge influx of expats, usually with better pay to be taking African jobs away. Does it mean that our fellow Africans cannot perform a simple task as well head inspection in sub sea?
The time for Africans who left in quest for better opportunities and education is now to come back home to help build Africa. Rather than buying the biggest house with a 30 years mortgage in the US or driving the latest car in Europe and then, come to Africa and only complain about lack of amenities, please it’s time for us to become part of the solution and not part of the questions. The western world has thought us the discipline it takes to be successful, let’s come back when we have the strength to make a difference in Africa.


The chart above from the IMF says it all : as the fastest growing  economies in the world are in Africa and we will need the human capital to help grow our continent.
 Africans should come back home.

By Anonymous Contributor.

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