WOMEN FAKE ORGASMS MORE THAN MEN.DO YOU AGREE??????

70% of women and a THIRD of men have faked an orgasm to avoid hurting their partner's feelings

• Pressure to enjoy sex was one of the main reasons
• Others became bored after an orgasm seemed unlikely  

Seven out of ten women and nearly a third of men have faked an orgasm, according to new research.

The study, carried out by the University of Kansas, found that 68 per cent of women and even 28 per cent of men have pretended to climax with a partner.

Both sexes gave the same reasons for faking it - a partner's orgasm was imminent so they felt under pressure to climax.

Other commonly cited reasons were that they wanted to end  - without hurting a partner's feelings - or they were bored after an orgasm seemed unlikely.

Aim to please: Many are faking orgasms to keep their partners happy

REASONS WHY MARRIAGES FAIL.

Top 10 Reasons Marriages Fail

1. Financial Problems
For the most part, it is the lack of open communication about money problems that jeopardizes a marriage more than the financial problems alone. Everyone has financial issues concerning bills, debts, spending and budgets. How a couple deals with those issues can make or break a relationship.

2. Communications Problems
If a couple has communication problems prior to marriage, those problems are likely to get worse after tying the knot. It is important that both partners are able to discuss every aspect of married life openly and on a regular basis. A marriage without two-way communication will not last long.

3. Family Problems
Family relationships with children, parents, in-laws, siblings and step-children are all sources of marital problems. Raising children increases stress in the home and can cause minor differences of opinion to become major rifts in a relationship. Discretion is the better part of valor when it comes to family and marriage.

4. Sex Problems
Sex is an important part of marriage and the source of many marriage problems. Every marriage requires the act of consummation by sexual intercourse. Failure to consummate a marriage or problems with sexual frequency, quality, and infidelity are all common reasons for marriage failure and divorce.

5. Friend Problems
Close personal friends of either spouse do not always make the transition to friends of the marriage. Some relationships with friends can be toxic to the marriage if they insert themselves between spouses. A good friend will enhance a married couple’s relationship. People who try to break a marriage apart are not quality friends.

HOW TO SPOT A GOOD GIRL/WOMAN-- 15 THINGS TO LOOK FOR.

They Are Still  Good women Out There ohhh.

Many of my readers lately are men who have at some point or other in their lives been deceived and dazed by a woman's looks. Many of them have wasted countless hours and spent small fortunes chasing after women who lied to them and basically treated them like dirt. Some regret the lost opportunity to the marry a woman who was not exactly physically attractive but was a good woman.

There is really no "standard" litmus test for telling right away that a woman is "a good woman" or one of those "other" ones.

Here are just a few things to look for when you meet or date a girl/woman:

1. She has an open and welcoming smile that goes beyond the surface deep inside her eyes 

 the window to her soul. Her eyes and her whole demeanor kind of "lights up" when you walk into the room or towards her.

2. She lets you be you.

 She does not want to change you - clean you up, re-make you or rename you etc. - so she can love you but accepts you just the way you are.

3. She genuinely enjoys your company 

 isn't afraid to ask for it or tell you that she enjoys being around you. Being around her feels like being around your best friend because you can truly be just yourself -- no feeling like you're always walking on egg-shells or trying too hard to please (and always coming short). The experience of being around her is "satisfying" in its own.

4. She goes out of her way to do things she thinks will make you happy. 

She's the woman who'll call you just to say "hi" or "I was thinking of you" however busy/tired she is.

5. She is independent and secure within herself.

 She does not need constant attention and does not put pressure on you to feed her self-esteem, anxiety or worries about the future.

6. She's there for you when it's up and when it's down. 

 She's happy out in an expensive restaurant just as she's happy sitting next to you on the couch, doing nothing.

GRATITUDE ( "THANK YOU" ONE OF THE SWEETEST WORDS)

Appreciation  Goes A long Way....


Gratitude or thankfulness is, in fact, a grand concept to most of us; so much more, because being grateful or thankful seem a tall order these days. What is there to be grateful about in our wretched, cruel world, when people kill each other at the slightest fault, not only thru unthinkable acts, but also thru sharp, wounding words? What is there to be thankful for, when kids die of toil or hunger instead of skipping their way to school, babies get sold like pancakes for a living when they ought to be nurtured and cared for, men and women lead lives of indecency and promiscuity, and the sick, old, and dying become eyesores to society? Where is the beautiful, the good, and the pure that we ought to be grateful about? In this day and age, all these things seem to have been thrown outside the proverbial window.

Somehow, though, despite all the crap that the world has been churning out in recent times, I still choose to cultivate my personal culture of having a grateful or thankful spirit. Gratitude or thankfulness leads one to move above and beyond limitations toward the real beauty of things. As Melody Beattie so aptly put it, “Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”  I choose to cultivate gratitude and thankfulness within myself, because by doing so, I invite acceptance, optimism and positivity, and most importantly, I invite hope to reside within me.

GUYS OPINION ON HAVING SEX WITH A VIRGIN

How Guys Feel About Sex With Virgins

This week, by a readers request, we posed this question: "What are your thoughts about having sex with virgins? Would you have sex with a virgin at your current age, assuming you were single? If yes, how and when would you like to be told that someone you were dating was a virgin? And how have your sexual encounters with virgins (when you weren't one yourself) differed — if at all — from sex with more experienced partners?" Below, guys answer.

 *Guy Number 1

 Whatever she wants

I've only ever lost my virginity, never taken it from someone. However, if I was dating a virgin, I'm not sure it would be all that big a deal. I'd probably treat it like everything else when it comes to sex: whatever she wants, whenever she's comfortable, and whenever she's ready. However, if she was one of those people "waiting for the right person" and still about my age, I'm terrified I'd assume she's some kind of crazy fundamentalist and break up with her — which doesn't seem fair. Some people obviously need to wait, but I do think sex is an essential part of the relationship and declaring it has to be put off (particularly between two monogamous adults) is more detrimental than helpful.

*Guy Number 2

The campsite rule

I don't think virginity is magical! I mean — I guess it is true that I wouldn't have casual sex with a virgin, but then, I don't think I'd really have casual sex, anyhow. I don't ascribe to some notion of purity or innocence coming along with virginity, but you do have to take into account emotions and history — if you have sex with a virgin, you're going to be part of their person's life story. Not necessarily, but it is likely. I know Dan Savage is controversial, but his "campsite" rule comes into play, I think — don't leave a mess behind, try to make the person better than when you first met. That being said, I guess I'd want to be told, you know, around the time that it became germane to the discussion — when the possibility of hooking up started to develop.

22 SECRETS TO DISCOVERING YOUR DREAMS AND LIVING IT.(Dedicated to my reader Cyril de West)

If You Can Think It..You Can Definitely Do It..

One of the most important rules of happiness in life is to do what you love. But discovering that dream job and what you are meant to do in life isn't always so easy.

Take a look at the happiest, most successful people on this planet: they are all doing something they love, creating something they believe in, living a life of purpose and passion. Do that, and it doesn't matter how much money you make.

But what do you do if you don't know what you want to do? If you don't know what your dream is? This is a common problem, and many people wander through much of their life without discovering their passion, and go from job to job, unfulfilled and miserable.

If that's you, don't give up. What follows is a list of suggestions that will help you discover your dream, and start on the road to living that dream. They're things that have worked for me and many others I've studied, talked to, interviewed and admired.

While you don't need to do every step below, they are all ways for your to spend time thinking about your passion in life, your dreams, and how to accomplish them. If you spend time thinking about your dreams, you are taking the first step towards making them a reality.

The first step is to give this stuff some thought.

1. What are your hobbies? This doesn't just mean stamp collecting -- it means anything you do with your spare time. That could be collecting comic books, reading about history, programming Linux utilities, writing on your blog, writing poetry, cooking, whatever. As it's clear that this is how you like to spend your time, and that you're willing to do these things without pay, it's very possible that these are your passions. Give each of your hobbies some thought, and think about whether they're things you love to do, and that you'd love to do for a living.

6 TYPES OF TOXIC FRIENDS AND HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM

Do You Have These Kinds Of Friends?????You Now Have A Solution….

There is no crystal ball to predict that a particular friend will turn out to be a reliable, positive relationship in your life or, by contrast, that a negative association will cause you emotional distress, or worse. Since destructive or negative friends are not always that easy to spot, being forewarned is forearmed, as the saying goes. Some friends may be betrayers from the start; others may turn into betrayers because of what's going on in their lives or because of changes in their personality. Sometimes you need to consider what your friend is really like within the contexts of all the behaviors. I can't emphasize enough that you need to consider the root cause.

Here below are six traits to consider that could pose a problem in friendship. (You may even recognize yourself in one or more of these types.)

1. The Promise Breaker
2. The Double-crosser
3. The Self-absorbed
4. The Discloser
5. The Competitor
6. The Fault-finder

1. The Promise Breaker
This friend constantly disappoints you or breaks promises, most likely because she herself was constantly disappointed during her formative years. Your friend is unable to stop herself from repeating that pattern. It is an annoying but comfortable pattern for your friend, and without psychological help, it may be hard for her or him to alter this pattern. You could abandon the friend and the friendship, or you could find a way to detach yourself by lowering your expectations for this friendship. If she promises to do something for you, even to meet you for a cup of coffee, you can say, "Sure," but protect yourself by knowing, in the back of your mind, that this friend "nine times out of 10" is going to cancel on you.

Although your friend may always have been this way, she may have also recently acquired this trait because of something she is going through right now. If a friend who has always been there for you, through thick and thin, has only recently become less reliable, you might want to cut her some slack. You have to decide if this is a lifelong trait that will be hard or impossible to change, a temporary condition that will be short-lived, or something, if it does continue indefinitely, that you are willing to accept and handle.